The need to show sexual attraction in implicit ways was born in the era of strict rules and regulations, when the attitude to the intimate process was taboo by moral codes and church standards. Both the man and the woman had to demonstrate to their partner their willingness to take action without fear of publicity or public condemnation. It is in such cases that nonverbal cues allow one to learn about sympathy and desire.
To want a woman and not show her is wrong, from the point of view of a normal man. Therefore, the potential partner, unconsciously or unconsciously, tries to demonstrate to the object of desire his interest through sexual gestures and postures.
When a man sees an attractive woman, he inadvertently starts betraying an "alpha man. "It signifies readiness for sexual intercourse with confident postures and showing a high tone of the physical condition of one's own body. This is usually observed in the following manifestations:
- the man straightens his back and straightens his shoulders;
- trying to push his stomach deeper;
- if the man is upright, his legs are shoulder-width apart, which shows a special stability and strong position;
- it is also important to trace the position of the socks on the man's shoes, if he is interested in some attractive person, then they will be directed to this woman;
- if the man sits in a chair, he will inadvertently spread his legs, thus, as if demonstrating his own genitals, ready for mating.
The excited man begins to straighten his clothes and hair, hoping to attract the woman's attention with his appearance. Instead of angular and heavy gait, he moves fast, like an athlete, while correcting the shortcomings of the figure, straightens and removes his abdomen
The eyes glow, the skin of the face automatically tightens, and the bags under the eyes disappear by themselves. In general, passion makes a person much younger and really more desirable for a friend.
Such a gesture is seldom used now, and many have forgotten about it, but even fifty years ago, thumbs behind a belt of trousers meant a rude, ostentatious act to a woman to show off her own genitals.
Delaying a man's gaze on the object of his lust speaks volumes. When he looks a woman in the eye a little longer than the rules of decency dictate, it shows his excitement and desire for closer contact.
Factors influencing attraction
There are several factors that can affect the level of sexual desire in men. This factor should include:
- Visual image. The fact is that the face of a beloved girl, the attractive smile of a stranger, as well as any other visual contact that has sexual connotations, is able to arouse a man. At the same time, after such signals, images of future sexual intercourse with a woman begin to appear in his head.
- Excitement from the smell. The scent has an exciting effect on the stronger sex, in particular the natural feminine scent has a similar property. Essential oil and pheromones are often involved in some mild pathogens.
- Hearing. Excitement from auditory contact is also possible. The sound of a name, a light whisper can have an aphrodisiac for men.
- Taste. Few people know, but arousal can be increased by some aphrodisiac foods that increase blood circulation in the genitals. These include nuts, seafood, bananas, honey and chocolate.
- Touches. Of course, the most powerful will be the excitement of touch. In this case we are talking about a natural physiological reaction. Every healthy man will have an erection even after a short masturbation. Increased arousal during intercourse.
From the first touch
Touches have a strong character, sometimes they betray a complete male desire to get closer to a partner. Watch the person's behavior: if he is interested in you, he will do everything possible to please even the smallest details. In short-term or spontaneous contact with the body or arm, a person may experience goosebumps all over his body, which will speak of his excitement, increased desire to conquer you.
If a young man sympathizes with you, he will do his best to demonstrate this in practice. He will inadvertently try to take your hand, touch your knees, remove the hair from his eyes, hinting at an increased desire to continue a pleasant evening.
Touch sometimes reveals much more than the eyes.
The trembling of the hands, a certain caution, the fear of frightening the partner immediately betray the excitement of the man.
Along with the touch, he begins to say nice words, pales, sometimes blushes, feels a wave of bristles when tactile contact occurs with each other. At this point, information is generated in the man's brain that directs his signals there than he "thinks" in such situations.
Signs of sexual arousal in men
Sexual arousal is a type of stress for the body and is accompanied by an increase in blood pressure, acceleration of heart rate and respiration and dilated pupils, therefore an indirect sign may be a certain emotion of a man, a rougher voice than usual.
The main thinga sign of sexual arousalin men, an erection occurs when the penis fills with blood and it becomes hard, the pressure increases, which can reach blood pressure, which somewhat changes its shape and increases in size, ie it becomes 6-7 cm morelong and 2-3 cm in diameter and hard. This allows it to be inserted into the vagina during intercourse.
But it happens that an erection does not occur due to various types of vascular disease, smoking, diabetes or some kind of stress and nervous or psychological disorders. All of these diseases make it difficult for the arterial cells to relax and, as a result, not enough blood flow is provided.
Arousal in men is much easier and faster than in women and its strength depends on the presence of sufficient hormones and strength in the body. Also, the level of arousal depends on anthropology, for example, the short ones are more sexually attracted than the tall ones.
Excitement in men can arise with just one thought of sexual intercourse and also quickly disappears after its end, in addition, you can arouse a man by flirting with him, exposing your body, etc.
If the man is very aroused, then there is a conditionsexual arousaldisappears very quickly and the process of ejaculation occurs quickly. For men, in addition to various types of caresses, sexual stimulants are also liberating. They can be just a kind of female genitals and touching them, as well as the feeling that the woman is aroused. They also include different types of auditory, visual and nasal stimuli.
In the process of sexual intercourse itself, in the process of rubbing his penis in the walls of the vagina, the nerve endings are irritated even more and as a result there is even more excitement, the man's face may begin to blush and he begins tobreathe often. If the friction stops for a short time, then there is a gradual bleeding and the penis begins to soften, if they resume, then the erection reappears and this in turn allows you to prolong the process of sexual intercourse.
The greatest sexual arousal and pleasure flow in men is observed during orgasm and ejaculation, and the high in turn is divided into 3 stages: it is a gradual accumulation of arousal, the highest degree of arousal, ie the veryorgasm and the degree of decline in arousal.
Before the onset of ejaculation, the man begins to feel the sweet contractions of the vas deferens and vesicles, these sensations last a few seconds and are a sign of orgasm. These contractions stop after the release of sperm under high pressure and the high also ends there. These. lasts only a few seconds.
After the end of sexual intercourse, the reverse process is observed, the so-called detumescence occurs. At the same time, there is a rapid bleeding and a reduction in the size of the penis and it becomes soft, but if the man is strongly attracted to his partner, then this process may take a little longer.
In men, as in women, after the sensation of orgasm, there is a feeling of refractory pause, this is the period when arousal does not occur even after erogenous exposure. The duration of this period in men varies and can vary from a few minutes to several days.
Scientists have identified several factors for the normal course of sexual intercourse, including: - neurohumoral, ie the process of blood flow, providing an influx of hormones that contributes to the emergence of sexual desire and arousal; - mental, contributing to the appearance of an erection immediately before sexual intercourse; - erection, which contributes to the stimulation of the penis - ejaculator, providing ejaculation.
How do you know if a person is aroused?
Of course, for a permanent member. That's what many girls think. But this is wrong. After all, an erection may not be complete, not strong, or even absent when aroused. Therefore, looking blankly between the legs of his beloved is definitely not an option.
Man's excitement is also manifested in such signs as:
- Fast breathing
- Conversation on intimate topics;
- cardiopalmus;
- Confusion of thoughts;
- Choked voice.
Also, the young man may start touching or harassing you. It cannot be controlled. He seems to have drunk a little, although he is sober.
The pupils of such a person are dilated, and the look is a little silly. By the way, the excitement in girls manifests itself in almost the same way.
In this case, it is worth considering the big picture. Excitement manifests itself in everything. After all, if his heart just beats or he smiles often, that doesn't mean it. that he wants you. Maybe the man is just shy.
Signs of arousal in a man
There are several other indirect signs that he wants intimacy:
- thirst. Unless, of course, it's really hot now;
- Inhibition or vice versa, high activity of movements;
- Adjust your clothes, hairstyles and more. ;
- Abdominal sucking and back straightening;
- Unexpected shame.
In addition, an excited person will undress you, even if he is the most cultured person in the world. And sometimes he may just leave you (in the sense of home), scared of his feelings. This is possible at the first meetings. If you have not only met, he will return home to you in this state.
And don't forget the dick. This is a (albeit stupid) but proven method. Try to look at it thinner than a belt. If there is "something sticking out", there is 100% excitement.
What turns boys on?
Almost anything can excite a young person. Starting with bare breasts and ending with simple conversations. Male sexuality is designed in such a way that the desire for sex comes quickly and is transmitted through images. That is, he does not need a romantic evening and candles to wish you.
Many do not know, but the banal hugs excite the boys. In fact, during this process, the girl is pressed to her chest. That's why you shouldn't hug your friend often if you don't plan to let him in your bed.
Remember that a person can be included: bikinis protruding from the bottom of jeans, fishnet tights, short skirts, large neckline of the dress, tight pants, such as leggings and more. So you shouldn't wear anything outright if you don't want to be seen as a piece of meat.
Exciting factors
Factors affecting arousal in the fairer sex are as follows:
- love. The most important pathogen for women is this feeling. Girls should always whisper kind, tender words in her ear. At the same time, love wins not only in words but also in deeds. Therefore, a man should not be stingy with generous knightly deeds.
- The smell of a man. This factor largely determines the possibility of interaction between a woman and a man. In this case we are talking about natural pheromones. If we are talking about perfume, then here you need to approach very carefully, carefully choosing one or another fragrance for yourself. Therefore, a man should not spare such an important aspect.
- Appearance. This factor is also important in arousal. A majestic representative of the stronger sex who goes to the gym, takes care of his body and health is already interesting for a woman. You also need to monitor the condition of your hair, nails, and even your clothes. A woman can be aroused by a nice tie, a nice suit, a slightly unbuttoned shirt, the right underwear and much more. It should also be noted that some women may be aroused by slightly prickly stubble, hairy and strong hands and the feeling of a male shaft. As for the latter, it is already set by nature.
- Situation. Of particular importance in excitement is the situation, the meeting or the date. Many people always strive for the best, the order of things in this case is no exception. It should also include music that can add more euphoria to a meeting, a beautiful place, delicious dishes that include the aphrodisiacs described above.
Erogenous zones
Some women suggest that there is only one erogenous zone in the male body and that it is in the groin area. In fact, everything is a little different. There are many more erogenous zones in the body of the stronger sex. To set up a partner for intimacy, you will need to turn on your imagination and resort to the help of not only the hands but also the lips.
Where are the erogenous zones in men:
- Face and neck area. Scientists have been able to prove that these places are highly susceptible. Stimulating these areas will help to arouse the desire of the gentleman. You can touch your neck with your fingertips, massage your earlobes and kiss your loved one on the face.
- Chest and back. Sexologists recommend that you start flirting with your lover by consistently touching the surface of his back and chest. You can also use the boyfriend's shoulders, they are recommended to massage gently, making wave movements. The back is massaged along the entire spine, the touch is soft and smooth. But often it is enough to just approach the man from behind and run your hands over his chest, to the lower abdomen.
- grains. This erogenous zone is distinguished by its high sensitivity. Touching this area can give pleasure to your partner and cause discomfort. Because the sensitivity of each of the stronger sex is a purely individual matter.
- stomach. This is an area that requires special attention. You can touch it with your hands, lips and even your head. Crown massage is widespread in Thailand and beyond. It is performed according to certain rules: the girl sits on top of her partner, tilts her head and touches the top of her head to his abdomen, making circular motions. The diameter of the circle gradually increases. Such a massage will not only help to arouse a man, but will also increase his sexual activity.
- Hands and fingers. To stay in bed with a loved one for a long time, you need to pay attention to the palms of his hands. They can be: rubbing, kissing, ironing. There are nerve endings at the fingertips, they improve the transmission of impulses to the brain.
- Inner thigh. To quickly set your partner in the right mood, it is worth doing a foot massage, be sure to affect this area. Through the arteries, blood flows to the organs of the reproductive system, foot massage will improve blood flow and provide long-lasting erections. For this reason, it is used in the treatment of impotence.
How to quickly excite a loved one in bed with your hands and caresses? To do this, you need to hug your partner by the chest with your hands and press his back with bare breasts.
In order for "everything to happen" and the partner was delighted with the intimacy with his beloved, you need to be free, to be active. The main thing is to feel the man, it will allow you to predict his desires, to read the most intimatethoughts.
Does the person have to be aroused or is he already aroused?
There are many ways to check if your lover wants sexual intercourse right now. As you know, an erection is the most striking sign of male arousal, but, of course, it is not always possible to verify this. That's why it's worth knowing a few other, less noticeable details that will betray your partner's secret desires.
- Physiological signs. During agitation, small changes in the work of the male body begin to occur - the pulse accelerates, sweating increases and slight trembling of the hands and voice is possible. The latter, by the way, often becomes low and slightly hoarse, acquiring some velvety and playful notes.
- The view. If someone longs for you, they will literally eat your body with their eyes. In general, the state of male arousal is similar to a slight trance, which will not be difficult to catch in his eyes.
- Posture and gestures. A man burning with sexual desire will always keep his body facing you. Boys often take the position of a confident macho, folding their arms around their belts and pushing their bodies slightly forward, as if demonstrating their dignity. Although this does not always work - it all depends on the character of the person and his self-esteem Pay attention to the position of the shoes - if the person wants you, the socks on his shoes will definitely be directed in your direction
- I'm talking. If the man's thoughts are busy with your body, there may be long pauses in conversations. This means that your lover is so engrossed in fantasies about sex that the ability to think about something else simply disappears.
Words and caresses
If your loved one is in no hurry to go to bed, then you should try to excite him with words. You may have a rich vocabulary and know your partner's preferences, but you still experience some discomfort by whispering different phrases to him.
Words and phrases are chosen individually, much depends on the receptivity of the gentleman. But to achieve the best result, you must supplement the words with love.
Caressing is a broad concept that can include hand, foot, kiss and other elements of foreplay. However, oral contact is also called caressing, as well as intimate massage.
If it is decided to completely influence the beloved, then you can combine love, kisses, caresses with words. This will allow the man to reach the peak of arousal faster.
If all the above methods do not work, then you should consider using the pathogen. Aphrodisiacs, lubricants, tablets and creams work as such. But it is better to coordinate their use with a partner - this will help avoid awkward situations.
Signs of clear attention
In fact, it's not hard to tell if a man wants you. He won't hide it much.
It is important for women not to show sympathy and to be modest, mysterious, intriguing and make men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is structured differently - its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent
Most likely, the man will show signs of attention, because he does not just want a woman - he certainly thinks how to get her. And to achieve this, you have to take care of her, give nice gifts and flowers, say beautiful compliments, etc.
Sexual lust will make him choose special gifts and speak special words. It will be different from the romantic youthful impulses and will certainly have a subtle sexual tone. So you can reliably and accurately understand what is in the mind of the gentleman.
If he presented you with sexy lingerie, negligee or bathrobe - this is already an open offer and not even a hint. But this happens rarely, more often a man who wants a woman gives her a lot of cute trinkets - teddy bears, cute jewelry, bouquets and sweets.
Suddenly he became so beautiful. . .
Every man understands perfectly well that in order to fall into his strong embrace, he must be attractive.
So he suddenly changes - he wears fresh shirts, he always smells good and you can no longer remember when he was unshaven.
Appearance will give you a direct answer - if he always looks neat and fresh, going to a meeting with you, he is probably attracted and hopes to catch you.
The hands stretch like a magnet. . .
For every man, the female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, then in the first place he will feel an irresistible desire to touch. Distinguishing simple, friendly touches from those with sexual connotations is easy.
If his touches are gentle, very light, often as if accidental, this is a clear sign of sexual desire.
It is also worth knowing the places that men's hands reach. This place is a little below the waist (a well-mannered man is unlikely to grab your buttocks, although he will certainly have such a desire), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.
In addition, men are always very aroused by the feminine scent. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man is trying to smell you - to say something in his ear while inhaling the smell of your hair, to kiss, to inhale the scent of perfume.
He is better than the others!
If you are with your chosen man in common company and there are other members of his gender, then he will obviously try to be better than the others.
Men are by nature leaders, conquerors, it is very important for them to be first. So he will do his best to be much better than others to achieve your location
In general, it will not be difficult for a woman to determine that a man wants her a lot.
Everything in him betrays this desire: the eyes become as if dragged, the gaze wanders and cannot stop before your eyes, he is a little nervous, pays obvious attention and as if watching you like a predator
Even the most humble and timid person will not be able to hide his desire. It is too strong and will manifest itself in one way or another.
How to use this knowledge is another question. A woman is born to be admired, to be the object of lust and dreams.